http://www.cancerchat.org.uk/clearspacex/index.jspa All Content in Cancer Research UK Forum en Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:08:16 GMT Clearspace 1.10.3 (http://jivesoftware.com/products/clearspace/) 2010-01-31T22:08:16Z en http://www.cancerchat.org.uk/clearspacex/message/12840 <br /> Hi Frankie05<br /> <p /> <p /> <br /> How are things with you?<br /> <p /> If you need to let off steam about "in-laws" please feel free -I may Join in all too readily ! It is only my in-laws and insurance companies that can get me so wound up I swear <img class="emoticon" src="http://www.cancerchat.org.uk/clearspacex/images/emoticons/devil.gif" border="0" alt=""/> <br /> <p /> We may not have been too good with the advice <img class="emoticon" src="http://www.cancerchat.org.uk/clearspacex/images/emoticons/confused.gif" border="0" alt=""/> but we are always here to listen - looking back over some of my earlier posts I'm suprised a white van didn't pull up outside my house with one of those very nice coats that tie at the back.<br /> <p /> It did me good to rant here where very little I was going to say would shock anyone.<br /> <p /> I wish you well xx Sun, 31 Jan 2010 22:08:16 GMT tigger http://www.cancerchat.org.uk/clearspacex/message/12840 2010-01-31T22:08:16Z 7 months, 1 week ago 7 http://www.cancerchat.org.uk/clearspacex/message/12623 <br /> You must be hurting so much. Remember people say and do the most silly things when they are frightened and I expect his family is very frightened! That this could in any way be your fault is ludicrous. They are just feeling protective and more than a little desperate.<br /> <p /> No doubt you are feeling a bit like that yourself. He is possibly finding it easier to be scared and vulnerable with people that have known him all his life - he may be scared that you will leave him. Let things settle a bit and see what happens. Is he going to be in hospital for long or will they want to discharge him soon? If so, who will care for him? These will be the big questions for the future and his family will need to discuss them with you. There will be questions of finance and living arrangements and lots of practical things to organise if he is to be given the best possible quality of life for his remaining time.<br /> <p /> These issues could affect you too if you are not married. It may be a good idea to talk to his MacMillan nurse or someone. His views will be paramount of course and you will have to respect that, but i sounds early days yet and everyone has to come to terms with it all first.<br /> <p /> Wishing you the best of luck. Let us know how things go. Sun, 24 Jan 2010 19:49:57 GMT Roseanna http://www.cancerchat.org.uk/clearspacex/message/12623 2010-01-24T19:49:57Z 7 months, 2 weeks ago 1