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3 Replies Last post: 08-Nov-2009 23:54 by Locket

is there hope

02-Nov-2009 23:45

rosa 5 posts since
15-Oct-2009

my niece is terminally ill. she has been battling for 3 years, since she was 5, and now she is being given a low dose kemo at home which will prolong her life for upto 13 months. this is very optomistic.

i am very angry with the whole situation. the cancer she has should be curable and even the doctors are baffled as to why the last three courses and radiotherapy hasnt worked.

we are all taking very hard. she is so young and has been through so much.

please help me understand how exceptance of this is possible?

i read others posts and it fills me with a feeling of hopefullness. has anyone ever been in this situation and recovered.

is there hope?

penelope 2 posts since
27-Oct-2009

1. 03-Nov-2009 19:12

in response to: rosa

Re: is there hope

Yes Rosa there is always hope. My friend's husband had a brain tumour and was given months to live, they removed it and said it will come back, but enjoy the time you have left. He is still with us and has a good quality of life 3 years later.

But - you must prepare yourself. I lost my sister to cancer so I know how hard it is to watch someone you love suffer, and it makes you feel so helpless and angry. Try and think that, in case her time is limited, pack as much love and happiness as you can into her life. Try and be happy around her, and if it does get the better of you explain that you are sad because she is poorly. Try and save your sadness for when you are not with her, let it out, cry, shout swear ! It will help you to be stronger for her. It is so sad and unfair when children get this horrible disease, I am so sorry for you and your family. xx

Kathy 315 posts since
25-Oct-2009

2. 03-Nov-2009 21:51

in response to: rosa

Re: is there hope

Rosa,

It's been said before that there is always hope, but your neice's doctors do know what theyr'e talking about when they use chemotherapy to prolong life. You yourself called the cancer terminal and I would love for your neice's cancer to have a better outcome for her, who's suffered so, and also for the people who love her.

But you know that life is rarely fair, and that acceptance of this illness in such a little girl who has already suffered so much? Can't justify it. In fact it makes me angry. However, I will ask that you continue to be as caring as you have shown in your message.

I hope it won't, but if your neice's life does not improve in it's length, you can ensure her quality of life. Just tell her you love her and keep her feeling as safe and loved as she ever will...

Locket 92 posts since
10-Oct-2009

3. 08-Nov-2009 23:54

in response to: rosa

Re: is there hope

hi my name's lucie and i'm 14 years old. I believe there's hope in eveybodies life, it doesn't always work out how y1ou want it to but, hey thats life. How old is your neice? I expect she's a hero if 1she was diagnosed at 5. You must be very proud. Do you believe there's hope? Only 1you would know. I'll write back soon to see how your doing untill then all my love to you and your neice, love lucie xx

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