2 Replies Last post: 05-Mar-2010 08:41 by Sorcha  

Constant worry about Mum

28-Jan-2010 12:04

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My mum is currently in remission for Cervical cancer, its 3 years this December I think. I would like some advice please, about moving on and ways to stop me constantly stressing it might come back. I lost my nana in 2005 to Ovarian cancer, the three of us were really close and i keep worrying my mum is going to go the same way. I know you can never know, but it seems to have hit me all of a sudden and now i cant stop worrying. I have lost my nana, grandad and seen my mum survive in the last 4 years and had no councilling so maybe its now all the stress is coming out. I'm sorry for coming on here like this, it seems to be petty compared to peoples current, and very real fights against this. But i have never spoken to anyone about it all and here seemed the best place for support.
To all those fighting, all my love to you x
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1. 28-Feb-2010 21:19 in response to: ChantalSwin0
Re: Constant worry about Mum

Dear ChantalSwin0


It's only natural you'd worry, and with a question that hangs over a lot of people's heads.

It's hard to know what to write without making your concerns real, but if you've read this site, you'll know I have no medical knowledge. But what I can see is that you experienced some terrible things. Things that sometimes make us stronger, but with too much of them can knock us for six and we find it hard to recover.

The thing is it's important to enjoy life for what it is now. Don't hold your breath waiting for the next bad thing to happen. What if it does'nt? You'll have wasted your life.

I understand that you have fears swimming around inside of you as everyone does. The best thing you did was find Cancer Chat. Someone here will always try to rationalise those thoughts.


Good luck


Kathy

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2. 05-Mar-2010 08:41 in response to: ChantalSwin0
Re: Constant worry about Mum

I feel in a very similar way. I'm 21 and my Mum got diagnosed with advanced breast cancer when i was 11 and then with secondary brain cancer when i was 14. Ive felt alone for most of my life..i suppose i chose it..i isolated myself as i felt different and wanted time to think. I've found that if i tackle anxiety then i feel better and i remember that nothing is set in stone..sometimes that makes me scared and sometimes its a comfort.

I'm now a recovering anorexic and on my year abroad (i do french and spanish). You have to be strong and look after yourself...i found it all to easy to blame myself and to mistakenly believe by being a "perfect daughter" i could make my Mum happier and less stressed.

stay strong..

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