my mum was diagnosed in 2008 with bladder cancer it was such a shock. she had major surgery and had wot they could removed and had chemo and radiotherepy staighr afterwards. last may when we came bk she took very ill and was in hospital 4 over 2wks when we noticed a aroma and when i asked they said it was the timour. in june we found out tht the tumour had started growin in her lymph gland and had spread 2 the vulva. ahe has bn getting dressings done 3 times a day ever since 4 the fluid tht the tumour was making. she went thru chemo in october 2 try and push things bk but it never worked. im an only child and i just dont know wot 2 do or wots going on. i had 2 persuade her 2 go in 2 the hospice this wk as her pain was so severe. we had the results of her mri and it wasnt good and looks like tumour may b growing tho as she couldnt stay still scan wasnt clear, im so scared only people who have or are living cancer can understand, my oldest just wont accept it and im on tablets 4 stress, i dont tell mum tht cause she feels guilty seeing me upset. the problem is she wont tell me anything she allways makes it sound better thn it is i just feel so helpless surely im not alone?