4 Replies Last post: 28-Feb-2010 15:23 by leanndale  
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Hi,

I am 33 years old, and an only child my dad is just 64. In 2000 my dad was diagnosed with skin cancer, today in 2010 he has been diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. I feel like my world has fallen apart, I love my dad more than he will ever know. What terrifies me the most is I watched my father in law die from lung cancer - he was told in Nov and died 6 weeks later in Jan......I don't think I can watch my beloved dad go through that.

I have 2 young children 9 and 6, I don't know what to tell them if anything....

I don't know how to feel or behave, I feel so useless and selfish.........my dad has had a really tough life and I feel devasted that it is now going to be cut short for him, that he will not see my children grow up, that he and my mum will have no retirement together.

Thank you for reading x

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Hello Vicki

I am so sorry about your dad. I am afraid I am new to this site and only just posted myself a couple of days ago about my dad nwho also has terminal lung cancer.

I just wanted to say I can totally understand everything you wrote about the way your feeling,its truly hard. I was so scared of telling my 8 year old son but I finally felt today was the right time,I feel he is old enough to know whats happening,I didnt scare him,he knew grandad was ill but I have now explained he wont be getting better and may not last much longer,it truly broke my heart but I do feel better for doing it.

Please keep posting to keep us updated,you may feel it helps release some emotion for you,I feel clearer after my first post.

I will be thinking of you and your dad,lots of love


Kelly x

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Hi Vicki

My thoughts are with you at this difficult time my Dad also has Lung Cancer he was diagnosed in July last year.

we were told it was terminal he started Chemo and it has been difficult watching him go through his treatment.

I also feel useless but i try to be myself when i go to see my Mum and Dad it is so hard. It must be difficult being

the only child, i have 2 brother's but they do not help much so i feel like i am on my own trying to help Mum and Dad

cope with what lies ahead.

i think the not knowing how long he has is so difficuilt so i take every day i have Dad as a bonus.Dad has come to

the end of Chemo now and has just started to have some Radio therapy but it wears him out as he is going to the

Hospital every day this week and on Monday.

Your children are young and it is difficult to know what to say to them i have 4 boy's 16, 20,23 and 25 and it was not

easy when the boy's were told about my Dad i suppose we want to protect them but it is difficult i think you should just go

with your gut feeling about telling your children whatever you choose will be right for you and your children.

if you ever want a chat i am here for you.


best wishes take care saint x

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hi vickie, sorry to here your sad news. my mum was diagnosed with lung cancer that has also spread to the brain in nov 09. im so sorrythat your joining us all on this tough and lonely road, my mum is 65 and we were looking at pictures today that were taking in sept. cant belive shes changed so much. keep strong for your day talk sit laugh with him things change so quikly you have to make the best of time, try to pace yourself to and talk to people on this site it helps everyone here is hurting and we all understand the pain. lisa
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i knw how u feeluin my world has fallen apart been told my mums cancer has spread to her lungs n liver and i to dnt knw how to act or feel,i feel so num my heart aches only found out a few days ago xleann

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