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2 Replies Last post: 11-Feb-2010 23:16 by Candice246

my best friend

09-Feb-2010 07:00

dragonfly1 1 posts since
09-Feb-2010

i have had my best friend for a long time she has allways had terminal cancer since i have known her she 36 with 3 lovely boys and a great husband.she is very strong and hardly ever shows anyone what she really goes through her husband and i are the only one she sees and talks to i try real hard to be with her much as i cani dont consider my self as a strong person but i am when im with her.when i leave i brake down and im a mess thankfly i have a great husband.she has tumors every were un able to look after her kids she has a feeding tube witch she is finding it hard to keep anything down at this stage she at 45 kilos and on a lot of morphine for her pain the doctors cant help with any treatment she has only just been told im scared she will leave me she dosnt really talk about it she wont go to hospital she only now exepting help from nurses..she on my mind 24/7 we talk every day and i try and see her much as i can do you think she is going to leave us

Bubbles 337 posts since
07-Jul-2008

1. 09-Feb-2010 16:23

in response to: dragonfly1

Re: my best friend

Hi Dragonfly, I have lost quite a few people I care about from cancer - one of them being my best friend too. I would be prepared for the worse scenario as it does not look very good at all. If she is on a lot of morphine then sadly I fear her time is running out. and all you can do is exactly what you are doing now. Just be there for her whatever time of day or night like I tried to be with my best friend. The nurses who come into her will help with pain and make her as comfortable as possible but if you are worried and you think she needs more help then do not be afraid to voice your concerns to her husband and the nurses.

My heart goes out to you all at this time. I miss my friend terribly - she passed away a year ago last month but I have stayed in very close contact with her family and we talk about her often - sometimes with tears but mostly with laughter at all the good times. Take care.

Bubbles.

Candice246 4 posts since
11-Feb-2010

2. 11-Feb-2010 23:16

in response to: dragonfly1

Re: my best friend

Hi Dragonfly,

I am going through the same situation as u are. My partner also has cancer,he had surgery Dec '09 and only just started chemo and radiation early this week and it scares me not knowing if the treatment will work. I understand how u must be strong when with yr best friend and while u are away, u break down....i guess that is the only way to let them know that by being strong for them, then so can they.....otherwise if you cried infront of her, then she would be scared.

Its probably best if you dont think about whether she is leaving you soon or not. What is important is that you show her your love and care, EVERY SINGLE Day. Make the most of everyday that you get to see her and give her something to hope for...

Please, be strong yourself...and remember to make everyday u see her special!

Will be in touch. Let me know when u need to talk more.

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