1 Replies Last post: 10-Mar-2010 13:34 by Jowarsop  

Can anyone help my friend?

09-Mar-2010 21:56

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Hi,

I am all Googled out and don't know where to turn.

My friend was diagnosed with Ovarian Cancer when she was 4 months Pregnant - She continued the pregnancy and gave birth to a full term healthy baby. She has recently had surgery and is back home, but in order to recover she needs help with her baby. The father of the baby (her then fiance) is having problems dealing with the situation and is not around so she is practically on her own. She has a 5 year old from previous marriage but I fear this is all too much for her.

Financially, her maternity full pay is coming to end this month so she can not afford to pay for help. The Macmillan nurse can only help her but what she really needs is someone to look after her 3 month old baby for a few hours a day as she has ruptured her stitches once already and I'm really scared if she doesn't rest she will cause herself an injury.

I don't live near her and have a 9 month old myself so know just how hard a newborn is to deal with without being drowsy from treatment drugs and being told to have complete bed rest!

Is there a charity that can help her? Any suggestions, advice is welcomed.

Thx

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1. 10-Mar-2010 13:34 in response to: agoodfriend
Re: Can anyone help my friend?

Hi!!

I was to diagnosed whilst pregnant but with breast cancer. I know exactly how hard it is to cope and get through. i have a 3 year old to and that time was hard enough without the chemo and drugs and hospital visits to contend with. I was very lucky that i have a big family and they all live close by. They were at hand to help look after me and the boys. She does need rest and little ones dont understand that. They are great for keeping you going and giving you something to get up for every day but it is hard work. Has her partner had any form of counselling to help him deal with it all?? Has she spoken to or had contact with her health visitor?? there has to be some help out there for her?? My breast care nurse asked me about home help when i was diagnosed but i said i would be ok with my family. Does she have a nurse who she can turn to and ask questions to?? They were more than prepared to help me sort out help. I hope you get something sorted. I am here if you need a chat or if your friend needs to chat. Give her my best and i wish her and you all the luck.

Take care Jo xxx

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